A man tries not to remember this, but you do not forget. So, he wanted you, but he could not back up desires with actions. And, most sad, it’s not the first time with you.
It’s one thing, when a little unstable turned out to be a minor in your bed character. Nobody will condemn, if you do not begin intimate conversations with him, spare his self-esteem and answer calls. It’s quite another – if problems with erection appear in a man whom you seriously consider your life partner, and children call him «dad». We believe, to humbly forget about sex forever you do not agree. We collected all scientific data on erectile dysfunction and realized what should and should not be done by a woman who wants to help her partner cope with intimate problems.
To begin with, make sure that you do not dramatize and that there is something wrong with your man. The term «erectile dysfunction», which physicians usually replace vulgar «impotence», has a clear definition – this is inability to achieve erection or complete sexual intercourse for three months in a row, regardless of age of a man. Stress, discord in family, trauma or illness can be the reason that a person in a certain period of life or from time to time can not achieve erection. But only if this condition lasts for more than three months, it should be regarded as dysfunction.
If in your bedroom everything is exactly as described above, nevertheless there is one reason for joy: lethargy of penis, whatever the reasons may cause it, is perfectly treatable. The main problem, perhaps, is to drag a man to the doctor. Excuses are always standard: «It’s just stress, I need to rest – and everything will be fine», «I’m already too old to have sex», «I do not want anyone to know about my difficulties». Needless to say, for years these men and their companions were unhappy, although it would be possible to solve problem thanks to modern methods of treatment at first consultation. There is one conclusion: do not want to grow old in anticipation of night of love – do something, and in a clever way.
Mistake №1. Searching for Problems in his Head
Both you and 80% of men are sure that lack of erection has purely psychological reasons and it’s enough to knock out bigger salary (or marry a student, or go to Fiji), and everything will be great in a moment. In fact, only 20% of cases require psychotherapy, and the vast majority of men suffer from trivial disorders in vascular system that interfere with full sexual life. And state of vessels, alas, does not improve by pole dance or frank conversation.
Mistake №2. Blaming Yourself
Every unsuccessful attempt to turn on a man in bed produces complexes not only in his head. Even the most confident girls have bad thoughts about themselves. At such moments it is useful to remember that violation of blood supply to penis and, as a consequence, problems with erection are caused by abuse of alcohol and tobacco, love for fatty foods and sedentary lifestyle. Only if you taught him to drink and be lazy, you can sprinkle ashes on your head.
Mistake №3. Blaming the Man
Sex is especially good after a fight, but if this fight broke out because of sex, you can not count on success. On the other hand, when sexual hormones are bubbling in blood, and climax does not happen, you especially want to shout something evil, like: «I knew that you have someone! Then go to her!» But it’s better for you to keep silent: a man who can not justify himself for his own impotence should not justify himself in treason. So, it is not far to problems with erection, caused by psychogenic factors.
Mistake №4. Giving up Sex
Inactivity is detrimental to sexual health, and avoiding intimate contacts for fear of disappointment is the worst thing that can be done. Delivering to each other pleasure men and women, fortunately, can even with difficulties with erection. All in all, time of treatment can be a chance for couples to try something new, to show imagination and even revive intimate life.
Mistake 5. Focusing on Sex
By forcing a man to consult a specialists, do not focus on the fact that you are concerned about lack of intimate life or your relationships themselves. From a medical point of view, erectile dysfunction is only a symptom of serious problems in human vascular system and a signal that blood stroke, heart attack and other deadly pathologies have already chosen their prey. Therefore, in conversation it is more important to emphasize that you are concerned about health of a loved one, and erection doesn’t matter!
Mistake №6. Panic
Erectile dysfunction is curable in the vast majority of cases, but sometimes it takes time to choose method of treatment or drugs dosage. Do not panic if an hour after visit to doctor your man did not attack you as a wild beast – just once again support him in an uneasy decision to discuss his problem with a specialist.
Comment of a doctor-sexologist, psychotherapist:
«Erectile dysfunction is just a symptom that will tell a specialist about somatic and psychogenic problems of a person. And making diagnosis of «absence of erection» is as strange as, for example, «fever» instead of «pneumonia». If, during masturbation, degree of hardness is sufficient for penetration and patient has morning erections sometimes, this clearly demonstrates preservation of body component. Such a man does not need treatment of urologist or endocrinologist – it is prerogative of sexologist who «works» both with what is above waist and with what is lower. Specialist will help to prevent development of syndrome of anxious expectation of sexual failure or to outline ways of treatment. The problem is sometimes solved in just one step, when doctor explains mechanisms of this disorder, corrects settings and gives clear recommendations to the couple. After all, erection is a joint product of the work of a man and a woman.»